Personal Injury Lawyer
Regardless of if it was you or your spouse who initiated the divorce, it hurts and has lifelong effects. It will take time to heal and be ready to move forward in life. Clients often ask how they can get back out there and date or if it is the right time to start. The short answer, everyone is different, so it depends. The long answer, everyone is different, so it depends. There is no cookie cutter answer to this question and therefore, you have to take into account several factors. Here are five tips to keep in mind when you begin considering dating after divorce.
- Give yourself Time to Heal
There is no timer or specific length of time it takes to heal. Everyone is different and needs different things to be done in order to move pass the hurt of divorce. Even if you have healed, there is no reason why you should feel forced or rush into something you just don’t feel is the right time
This may be the hardest and biggest struggle, especially if you are now a single parent. You may now bear all the responsibility of providing for your child. It is a heavy load to carry. However, it is also your job to take care of yourself, you cannot take care of anyone else if you are not in a healthy state of mind. In order to be a good parent, you have to be a good person. And that means not only being kind and loving, but also watching your diet, getting exercise, rest, and putting some social time as a priority.
- Remember Why You Divorced
You were married to your ex-spouse for years, you knew them better than anyone else, so you are more inclined to fall back into a relationship similar to them. But remember, you left them for a reason. You did not work out for a reason. When you are looking to begin dating, look for someone who makes you happy, reinvent yourself, have fun.
- Be Open
Do not be afraid to tell the prospective date what exactly it is that you are looking for and not looking for. You should not be afraid of telling people what you need. It is about you this time, put yourself first.
- Get Out There
Everyone has excuses and reasons for not putting themselves back out there. Once you know you are ready and able to mentally and emotionally put yourself into the dating scene, do it! At the same time, do not force yourself, you know when you are ready, no one else knows, only you.